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Attachement Styles

Attachment styles have been increasingly referenced in popular culture, so you may think they’re not a valid way of thinking about relationships. However, they have origins in evidence-based psychotherapy. Understanding your attachment style can unlock struggles in your relationships and help you build deeper bonds with your loved ones. On this page, you can learn more about what attachment styles are and how we can utilize attachment styles as part of therapy sessions to help you develop healthier and more satisfying relationships.

What are Attachment Styles?

When developing close relationships, our brains store memories that tell us how to safely form bonds with other people. This internalized belief system is typically based in memories of how we and others we know formed attachments in our infancy and childhood. As we grow older, we use these memories to determine how we can safely form attachments to others and how emotionally and physically close we are comfortable becoming with people. Our attachment styles are how we feel stable in relationships. While there are some basic attachment styles that will be discussed below, most people show a combination of features of different attachment styles, so if you don’t feel like you fit perfectly within one, that’s to be expected. No two people are exactly the same, so it’s no surprise that your specific experiences won’t always lead to the development of all the exact characteristics of the basic attachment styles. They’re just a simple framework that gives a better understanding of how we develop bonds with others.

The Basic Attachment Styles

When working with individuals to understand attachment styles, we’ll start with the basics, but these are just a framework that should be considered when working to understand your own attachment style. The basic attachment styles are:

How Does Therapy Help?

Attachment styles are developed in situations that we have no control over, and they can continue to impact our adult behaviors. However, insecure attachment styles don’t have to negatively impact relationships. Through therapy, you can begin to change attachment patterns and improve your relationships. Some ways that therapy helps people heal insecure attachment styles include:
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Who offers therapy for Attachment Styles?

Each of our clinicians has years of unique training and experience that allow them to provide therapy using specific approaches that work best for certain clients. Our clinicians who offer therapy incorporating attachment styles are featured below, and you can learn more about them by visiting our team page.

What Should I Do Next?

When you’re ready to begin therapy, we hope you’ll consider contacting The Center for CBT in New York City. We offer a safe space where you are free to be who you really are and express yourself and your values authentically. We embrace, value, and welcome people of all sexual orientations, genders, and racial identities. The Center for CBT in New York City makes beginning your therapy journey simple. You can get started any time by completing our online consultation request form. One of our team members will be in touch within 24 business hours to answer your questions.
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